WHAT "TRULY" IS LOVE TRILOGY>>Love is a choice- PART 3

PART 3- LOVE IS A CHOICE

There are people using drugs or EXCESSIVE alcohol as an ESCAPISM method from reality. I think it's problematic for our society and sad that there are people out there that feel this way that there is no other option in the first place. These are some of the people I grew up with. The same kids who played in the playground and in some ways still are... At times it's good to go with the flow and other times question our life decisions, no matter how horrible they may be, and stay aware of everything. It's understandable why people make different types of decisions but if it becomes a serious threat or danger to ourselves or anyone it's NOT okay. Today it's not a boy meets girl story... it's a boy meets girl, stays together then runs away, comes back and more things happen, things got so complicated so quickly....life is tough kind of story...

There has to be some level of compatibility. Meet someone like you who shares the same values. It's easy to like more than one person at the same time or find them attractive. It's human nature, we are mammals. But love is a choice. It's climbing. Whether it being romantic, friendship or family relationship wise. It involves dedication, compromise and hard work. Once we choose to stay loyal, commit through the good and bad times. Having fights and arguments isn't necessarily a bad thing. We do with the ones you love the most. Like siblings. They are so annoying and they have no respect for privacy and wear all your clothes WITHOUT asking... ughhhh....but the love you have for them DOESN'T change or it SHOULDN'T. Everyone's stupid, an asshole or awkward in different ways to different extents. Forgiveness is a vitial step to create peace. The important thing is to learn from our mistakes... you know, and probably make new ones and then learn from those and in the end become a better person hopefully...

It's easy to diverge life paths because of how our society functions, again going back to getting easily influenced, changing interests and it being natural to grow apart. But love is a choice. It's ACCEPTING the person for who they are and remembering them from when you first met them. They are still the same person whatever happens, who may just be going through a hard time. Remember the parts of them that stay the same. Have something that connects you, whether it's the same types of food, hobbies, humour or love for animals. You can choose to love unconditionally without expecting anything in return and choose to care, choose to trust, choose to be honest and choose to be supportive. It doesn't have to be every second of everyday, (personally I strongly value my own space to grow), but it is POSSIBLE to maintain and keep ours bonds intact.

-Niki :)<3xx

P.S. Not that I'm throwing any shade at anyone buying the latest iPhone or makeup, if u want it and that makes you happy, get it. I like shopping, it's fun!!!
P.P.S. Same goes with drinking, drink to moderation and etc.. make RESPONSIBLE choices for yourselves and etc...
P.P.S.S. If you really don't like someone and don't have much in common with them, you don't have to force yourselves to like them. You don't have to like everyone and not everyone has to like you. Sounds kinda obvious but it's always good to be reminded sometimes..

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WHAT "TRULY" IS LOVE TRILOGY>>Job Doesn't Define You- PART 2

PART 2- A JOB DOESN'T DEFINE A PERSON

The social interactions we have, impact what tendencies that get rubbed off and you pick up from colleagues, friends and family. We get influenced to form a certain mode of thinking which impacts the choices we make from the clothes we wear, how we look, way we talk and act in a certain way to 'fit in' or 'adapt' to the 'professional' or 'artistic' environment we are in. It's easy to lose yourself as a person and some values you used to aspire to, after a prolonged period of time. It's difficult to stay 'true' to ourselves because of time and other factors that affect our lives to continue our hobbies and passions we once loved, unless we pursue them fully in a career. It's easy to forget the things we once used to identify ourselves with because we keep moving onto the next chapter in our lives... Which is why people don't encourage getting married young because it's natural to grow apart. Especially in the way how our society is designed that we live in.

Everyone KEEPS growing apart because we pursue different interests and get influenced in different ways. This causes us to develop as a person in different ways because of our different modes of thinking. Therefore, we meet others who are similar to us because they made similar choices in life, at the time, THUS ending up in the same place as you. And it's easy and in human nature to have an opinion and judge others who are not in the same 'circle of friends or work' due to having different modes of thinking as you.

Although,  a job or career in some way makes up a certain part of our lives that is sometimes looked down upon in society, 'a job doesn't define a person'. There is more to a person than you think. Even someone who seems very open have aspects of their life they don't share. We all do, because we can't share EVERY single MOMENT or DETAIL of our lives because there is a that lot goes on with everyone. They are still the same person at the end of the day, REGARDLESS of the title they hold. They are still your companion, brother, sister, relative and this doesn't change. Put yourself in 'their shoes' (WITHOUT BEING A PUSHOVER cause boundaries are important and we should take care of ourselves before anyone else).. but try see things from their perspective. There's a reason behind why everyone acts a certain way and takes time to develop an understanding to a person. There are two plants. Both are receive the same amount of sunlight, water and nutrients, but one grows into a Sunflower and one grows into a Mutant Venus fly trap. Both beautiful in it's own way. Much like siblings, both grow up in the same environment, go through some of the same experiences but still grow up differently. Every person plays a vital role in society. Every role is different but is EQUALLY as important, should be acknowledged and shouldn't be looked down upon, even though our world makes it seem that way because of pay rates, position of status and a certain hierarchy of success.

PART 3 -LOVE IS A CHOICE -COMING SOON...

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WHAT "TRULY" IS LOVE TRILOGY>>People Grow Apart- PART 1

PART 1- PEOPLE GROW APART

People grow apart... This is why marriage is so difficult. Not that I'd know, personally. I've never come that close to serious commitment, but from observation... Divorce rates have increased nowadays. It's no longer a lifetime promise because people realise there is an OPTION to leave. The idea of relationships and marriage have changed over the years. The 'inner animal' instinct in humans has us seeking out for more in a partner or looking for it elsewhere. This is partially where cheating comes in. Which leads to both parties having trust and relationship issues with either trusting themselves or learning to trust another again. This also impacts others affected by these circumstances to have these similar types of issues.

Even though the 'two' share their vows, which might've been taken seriously and meant something at the time. It's easy to get sidetracked and forget that MOMENT and FEELING. This is because it's so easy to get influenced in our world today. When we hear something more often from the media or people you are constantly surrounded by, at work or at home environment... we become programmed or brainwashed to think this 'one' way in our society. This is because when you see or hear something constantly or more often, the concept becomes more believable and we only see things 'that way' or from that perspective.

Let's flashback to when we were younger and we watch a commercial of the newest tamagotchi. Or now, when the iPhone3000 ad comes out. Or online, the beauty, fashion gurus on youtube with the newest clothing and makeup. And going out with friends for drinks, lunch and shopping. Technically you don't need this excess material wealth and possessions. But sometimes (not always, cause it's fine to want these items to use for creative expression and other reasons etc...) we can't help feeling the want to give into the temptation and feel pressured to buy this latest trend or a find replacement to fill a void. It's the start of falling for an individual because it seems new and interesting... It's the first rush of alcohol, when you feel that buzz and excitement. Or when the newest play station is released. Once u get the iPhone7, you neglect the iPod touch. This is only a TEMPORARY sensation... This becomes the same continuous cycle. The iPhone7 gets replaced by the iPhone30. Sooner or later the hype dies down.

PART 2 -A JOB DOESN'T DEFINE A PERSON -COMING SOON...

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